Saturday 24 July 2010

कोशिश


लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती,

कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती.

नन्हीं चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है,

चढ़ती दीवारों पर, सौ बार फिसलती है.

मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है,

चढ़कर गिरना, गिरकर चढ़ना न अखरता है.

आख़िर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती,

कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती.

डुबकियां सिंधु में गोताखोर लगाता है,

जा जा कर खाली हाथ लौटकर आता है.

मिलते नहीं सहज ही मोती गहरे पानी में,

बढ़ता दुगना उत्साह इसी हैरानी में.

मुट्ठी उसकी खाली हर बार नहीं होती,

कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती.

असफलता एक चुनौती है, इसे स्वीकार करो,

क्या कमी रह गई, देखो और सुधार करो.

जब तक न सफल हो, नींद चैन को त्यागो तुम,

संघर्श का मैदान छोड़ कर मत भागो तुम.

कुछ किये बिना ही जय जय कार नहीं होती

How To Achieve Success Without Struggle

How To Achieve Success Without Struggle



Is it possible to achieve success without struggle, despite what most of us have been taught from our younger days that success is impossible without massive hard work and sufferings?


As you go through stages of life, the painful reality you have to contend with is: Even hard work and struggle does not guarantee success.


To most people, success seems like a mystery, a puzzle. Despite pain-staking application of the universal rules and principles taught by the gurus, success remains elusive.


The irony, as you may also have noticed, is that some people seemed to have gained success so easily. These people are often deemed to be the lucky ones, with unexplainable factors that guide them to do the right thing at the right time.


What is this missing linking of success? Is it really a fuzzy factor that picks the winners at random?


The level of difficulty in reaching success is in direct proportion to the level of clarity we have about our life goals and purposes.


Do you have to toil away at tasks you never enjoy in order to gain success? Most likely so if you are fuzzy about what your want in life.


Can success be acquired in a joyful and fulfilling way? Absolutely! If you have achieved clarity in your life direction and mission, and have placed them firmly at the center of your focus, your life will be characterized by daily experience of joy and fulfillment.


The biggest problem many people have with success is: The glamorous kind of success that gain the recognitions and envies of others may not align with your heart's deepest desire. If you can reconcile success with what your heart truly desire, you can really gain success easily. This is the missing link to finding success without struggle!





Most people see success as achievement of goals. The fact is, success should be experienced during the journey. Over more than two decades, I have been pursuing success in studies, sports, career, and even self-development goals. I was extremely goal-oriented, always perpetuate the timeless principle of one of the "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People": Begin With The End In Mind!


As I reflect on all these years of experience, I found myself looking at the glaring paradox of success: When I focused only on the goals, the joy and excitement of success is often short-lived. Success is usually achieved after a long period of struggles and sometime unpleasant hard work. The main reason being that I was pursuing success that does not align with my life purpose. I was drawn to prestige and glamor, more than inner joy and fulfillment. The simple lesson that took me years to realize is: Pursue only goals that you can enjoy the journey.


Most often it is how we define success that determines whether we are able to enjoy the journey as much as the end goal.


Take my favorite sport for example: marathon running. When I set my goal on running a marathon race, I give myself 6 to 9 months to train for the race. It is important to have a clear and specific goal on the marathon race. For me, I have a clear goal to complete the full course in three-and-a-half hours or better. I am setting this goal to push myself to instill better discipline in diet and exercise, as well as in my work. It is a challenging goal to me because the last marathon I run more than ten years ago was barely below four hours.


With this end goal, I work backward to find out the pace that I need to run during the race. I would then be able to know the gap between my current form and what I need to achieve in eight month's time. I work out a training plan to do weekly long run, speed work, and interval training. The training schedule will be in a progressive manner where I should achieve peak form when it reaches the day of race.


To cut the long story short, there are lots of details in preparing for a marathon race. However, the single most important thing I have to focus on is how I define success. It is a mindset business. While I have set a specific time goal to finish the race, it is not my definition of success. The success is not found in the distant future eight months from now. Success is defined by my daily commitment in working out the training program.


With this definition, I experience success everyday whenever I:


- Complete a 12-mile run.
- Work out an exhausting but satisfying speed training.
- Push myself to finish the punishing interval training even when my muscle is aching.
- Resist the temptation of tasty food to stick to the sports diet
- Defy the urge to run too hard so as to avoid over-training or injury.
- Diligently attend to blister and chafing so as to recover in time for next day's training without disruption.
- Remember to replenish my body fluid sufficiently to restore the required balance.


Even though I have to sweat, suffer muscle aching and even injuries, doing these is not a struggle to me. It is fun and exciting. It keeps me energized everyday.


I look forward to the training regime everyday, anticipating the excitement and fulfillment of finishing each exhausting training session, knowing that I have achieved success for that day. The compounding effect of such success mindset is empowering. I know fully well that these small successes will add up to huge success in time to come. Even if I do not meet my time goal at end of this year, I know I have succeeded anyway as long as I follow the training regime diligently. I would already have experienced success on a daily basis for eight months even prior to the end goal. The final achievement of running time will be wonderful but it will not undermine my success. I am not comparing myself with others.


This same success principle can be applied universally in our life, in anything we do.


It is absolutely possible to achieve success without struggle if you can:


- Find your life purpose by seeking your inner wisdom;
- Set your goals base on your purpose, and be guided by what really excites and energizes you;
- Break the goal into small tasks you need to do on a daily basis;
- Stay focus in doing the small tasks well and enjoy the process;
- The key to enjoying the process is to be in the state of flow regularly by aligning your mind, body and soul.;
- This can be achieved by daily meditation exercise;
- Do not be concern about how you measure up with others;
- Have the faith and belief that success will eventually come, if you persevere and never give up.


Everyone can do it and everyone can achieve success in his own terms, without struggle!

A beautiful message!!






Love Ur Baby....... "Specially More to Girls"

मैं वह हूं जो आप हैं

 मैं वह हूं जो आप हैं



आदि शंकराचार्य शिष्यों के साथ नर्मदा नदी तट पर स्नान के लिए जा रहे थे। शिष्य उनके लिए मार्ग साफ करते चल रहे थे। इस दौरान एक पथिक वहां से गुजरा। शिष्यों ने उससे कहा-मार्ग छोड दें। स्वामी जी यहां से गुजरेंगे। शिष्यों के बार-बार आग्रह करने के बावजूद पथिक रास्ते से नहीं हटा। इतने में आदि शंकराचार्य भी वहां आ गए। उन्होंने उस पथिक से पूछा कि आप कौन हैं? पथिक ने अत्यंत धैर्य से उत्तर दिया-मैं वह हूं, जो आप हैं।

पथिक के इस कथन को सुनकर शंकराचार्य कुछ क्षण के लिए शांत खडे रहे और फिर झुक कर पथिक के चरणों को स्पर्श कर लिया। उन्होंने कहा-आज आपने मुझे जीवन का वास्तविक ज्ञान दे दिया। मैं आपको अपना गुरु स्वीकार करता हूं।

वह पथिक निम्न कुल का था। शंकराचार्य आजीवन उसे अपना गुरु मानते रहे। पथिक के कथन की उन्होंने दार्शनिक व्याख्या की, जिससे अद्वैत दर्शन का निर्माण हुआ। मानवतावादी चिंतन के लिए अद्वैत दर्शन एक आध्यात्मिक प्रेरणा है। सब एक हैं। कोई दूसरा नहीं है। इसका कारण है सर्वव्यापी ईश्वर और आत्म तत्व का ब्रह्म तत्व का अंश होना।

जब सृष्टि का नियामक एकमेव ब्रह्म है, तो फिर कोई किसी अन्य से पृथक क्यों? सब में वही आत्म तत्व है, जो सभी में है। उपनिषद में ऋषि कहते हैं कि अपने को जान, उसे जान, मुझे जान, और ईश्वर को जान। स्वयं से साक्षात्कार करने की स्थिति व्यक्ति को अमरत्व के दर्शन कराती है। जो आपमें है, उसमें है और हम में भी। छान्दोग्यउपनिषद में ऋषि कहते हैं कि सब कुछ ब्रह्म ही है। मनुष्य उसी से उत्पन्न हुआ है।

तैत्तिरीय उपनिषद में ऋषि ब्रह्म को आनंद का प्रतीक मानते हुए कहते हैं कि जिसने सृष्टि बनाई है, वह सबमेंहै और सब उसमें है। यह विचार भी अद्वैत दर्शन को पुष्ट करते हैं। साथ ही, ब्रह्म में आनंद की उपस्थिति उसके कल्याण रूप का प्रतीक है। ऋषि कहते हैं कि आनंद से ब्रह्म है, आनंद में ही ब्रह्म है, आनंद से ही ब्रह्म जीव पैदा होते हैं, आनंद से ही वे जीवित रहते हैं, आनंद में ही फिर समा जाते हैं।

भारतीय दर्शन में विभेद को मान्यता नहीं दी गई है। समरूपता,समरसता और एकाग्रता आत्मा के लक्षण हैं। उसे स्वीकार करते हुए कहा गया है कि एक ही ईश्वर सब प्राणियों के भीतर विराजमान है। वह सबको गति और ऊर्जा प्रदान करता है। सबके भीतर वही समाया है। वह सभी कर्मो का स्वामी है। वह साक्षी भी है, ज्ञाता भी है और न्यायाधीश भी। ईश्वर निर्गुण और अनंत है।

साधक की इच्छा होती है कि वह जीवन-जगत के रहस्यों को समझें। इसके लिए वह परमपिता परमेश्वर की निकटता चाहता है, क्योंकि उसकी निकटता का अनुभव मात्र ही अनेक रहस्यों को अनावृत्त कर देता है।

ईश्वर को जानने से सारे संशय दूर हो जाते हैं और जीव के मोह भाव नष्ट हो जाते हैं। कोई गैर नहीं होता, किसी से बैर नहीं होता। सब अपने होते हैं और व्यक्ति अद्वैत की स्थिति प्राप्त कर लेता है।

Meaning Of "Mother"



 

Mother....... (आई, माता)

Mother.......

God cannot reach everywhere...So he created Mothers on the Earth!!!

                A simple, yet very expressive snap!

                MOTHER IS GOD'S Best GIFT.


If God is great, (Amma, Aai, Amme, Maa, Mom, Mummy................is also great!)

THERE IS NOTHING IN THE WORLD BETTER THAN MOTHER'S LOVE.......

Baby Monkey hit by bike at Jaipur { India }

but monkey mother...... . we already know the Mother history.

Maa Tujhe Salaam


 






...Nothing in this world is better than a Mother...

                -.....………………………………………………………………………………………………………..-

Do you know………………………………………………………………………..

a human body can bear only upto 45 Del (unit) of pain.

But at the time of giving birth, a woman feels upto 57 Del of Pain.

This is similar to 20 bones getting fractured at a time!!!!

LOVE UR MOM... I LOVE MY MOM...DO YOU....

THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON ON THIS EARTH…

OUR BEST CRITIC …

YET OUR STRONGEST SUPPORTER…

"MOTHER"

Thursday 15 July 2010

A Beautiful Date

A date !


After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.


She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.


The other woman that my wife w anted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.


That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.


"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a sur prise invitation is a sign of bad news.


"I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. " Just the two of us."


She thought about it for a moment, and then said, " I would like that very much."


That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed t hat she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.


She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.


"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, "she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting".


We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down,


I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.


"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.


"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.


During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.


As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.


" How was your dinner date ?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.


A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did to do anything for her.


Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.


An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."


At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: " I LOVE YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.


Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."


Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.